I decided to call my blog Closing the Gap for two reasons.
Firstly, because there is a communication gap that inevitably separates one person from another. Our ability to influence others is determined by our ability to recognise and then close this gap. The communication gap is so important that I write about it in more detail in the first of the free downloads that is available to you.
Secondly, I called it Closing the Gap because my blog closes the gap between us – it is a way I can share my observations, thoughts, questions and ideas. It is a way I can let you into my world as it’s actually happening. It’s a way we can connect.
Now, though, I want to just ask you a simple question,
Which part of you runs your life?
And don’t Tweet me saying it’s one of your sexual organs!
It’s not your conscious mind, either. Logic and intellect both have their place – and it’s a significant one. It’s just not as significant as the ultimate power source.
And that is….
….Your subconscious mind.
I use the word mind there as a way of describing it. The truth is, the word mind is just a human linguistic construct for referring to something we don’t really understand. I just thought I would add it on rather than simply say,
I hope you don’t mind.
You see – not that you can actually see the subconscious, that’s part of the problem scientists and psychologists have – the subconscious never stops working and it never stops receiving and storing stimuli. It’s the greatest influence-receiver on the planet. Think of it like a bank. One that is open twenty four-seven and, therefore, needs to be respected, protected and managed well.
The subconscious is the ever-available Fort Knox of influence!
And the great news is we all have ownership of, and access to, our own, personal Fort Knox!
We just have to be careful what we allow to be stored there.
My favourite philosopher, a Persian mystic and martial artist called Epiah Khan, wrote often about the importance of opening the heart whilst also ensuring that damaging influences were not allowed entrance. Given his background and inevitable religious beliefs, I am sure that his interpretation of heart was different to mine. To me, it signifies the all-powerful subconscious rather than any sort of connection to an almighty god.
No matter, for as long as people have been able to talk, we have used and shared common words and given them very different meanings. (That is part of the reason for the Gap.) And Epiah Khan was right, at least, about the need to make sure that we – you – don’t give other people, or any other form of influence, easy access into our subconscious. Only bank the stuff that is most useful to you.
I’m writing this because I’ve just watched a brief extract from one of those television programmes in which broken people share their stories, blame each other and occasionally fight, before being promised support to help them change. Like all children these people grew up open to influence, without any defensive measures in place, unable to resist the negativity and the bad role models; unable to exercise their imaginations powerfully enough about how things might be. That’s the greatest deprivation.
Influence management should be compulsory in education. It would save us billions. And make a happier world.
Keep Closing the Gap,